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Tunnelling through…

Distance.. June 6, 2012

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Waving goodbye to you is perhaps the toughest, most trying test of my endurance. My heart whispers silent prayers for your safety, while I silently remind my self that you’re by me only till God chooses for you to be. I try to hold my tears and head home…

… Where loneliness awaits me for its not truly home without you, is it. Did I mention that I miss you?

I do. Your laughter. The love in your eyes. I miss you, I really do.

The irony of it all is that as years go by, I can’t get used to it.

Oh I miss you, your annoying socks right next to the laundry basket and your game of bball which I pretend not be watching while I type away on your laptop. Your spicy chili and your biryani. Uff, I miss you. The twinkle in your eyes when you pinch my cheeks, the tenderness with which you put my hair behind my ears.

Aah! Your hugs and your jokes. The merriment within you. Looking askance, as though that is how you see the world, slightly lopsided, and all the merrier for it!

I miss u, come back soon!


Fun, Fun, Fun June 4, 2012

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For the last three years, I’ve been throwing Eesa an end of the year party. As I’m preparing for this year’s party, I can’t help but go over the pictures from last year. I love throwing these parties for my kids. The joy on their face, makes the party all the more worth it for me.

Solar system based menu…

The goodies. The candy table, the handmade bags for candies made out of newspaper, door hanger and solar system information + colouring book!

The photobooths. The spacial “star-ry” background and the planetarium background!

“I am thankful for the mess to clean after a party because it means I have been surrounded by friends”.  ~Nancie J. Carmody


Relationships May 29, 2012

Filed under: Uncategorized — shezahasan @ 3:34 am

What is it about some people and their need to put you down to feel good about themselves!?

Alhamdolillah, my self worth is robust enough to keep the relationship dancing – albeit, I have to admit, the distance helps set the pace a more tolerable level! Sent from my BlackBerry Smartphone


Life.. February 8, 2012

Filed under: Uncategorized — shezahasan @ 2:58 am

The irony of life lies in its ability to trump you. When you feel you’ve finally come to the crux of its essence, you’ve finally overcome the hurdles, finally got a grasp of the game and deal with whatever may come your way….

Checkmate. Game over.


Sent from my BlackBerry Smartphone


Grandparents February 4, 2012

Filed under: Uncategorized — shezahasan @ 6:52 pm

Do you know why grandchildren are always so full of energy? They suck it out of their grandparents. ~Gene Perret


Winter.. January 30, 2012

Filed under: Uncategorized — shezahasan @ 3:54 am

Toe socks and fuzzy pyjamas. Hot chocolate and marshmallow squares. Warm slippers and comforters. The crisp breeze and the early morning aroma of burning firewood. Snowflakes and snow angels. Holidays and memories. Wooden sleds and plastic slides down hills. Scary, slippery drives and glazed evergreen trees.

All things bright and beautiful,

All creatures great and small,

All things wise and wonderful,

The Lord God made them all.


Parenting Peeves… November 29, 2011

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With my dwindling health, it is now rare that we entertain at home. We’ve started taking each week as it comes. Since I don’t know which day will not be a good one, I try to keep the freezer stocked with precooked food. On my good days, I try to replenish the freezer and make sure the house is in order since we don’t know what tomorrow may bring. 


As frustrating as it is for me, it is not easy for my kids. It is definitely not easy for the hub either. But all three of them have been extremely patient and silently modified their lives to accommodate my needs. It would also be really unfair not to give credit to hub’s parents and aunts – they more than willingly babysit the kids when I need them to, they send food and above all, always call with prayers. 


The kids have perhaps grown up faster than they needed to, but are largely independent. They dress up themselves, have their own breakfast, change on their own and tidy up after themselves. They know when mum’s out of commission and automatically, pick up where I slack. I try to keep things going in a system so that on those days when I’m out of the picture, they are largely capable of handling themselves.


This weekend wasn’t a really good one. But I had already committed with a training and a baby shower – neither of which I felt I could do but since the headache was mild and nausea wasn’t bad, I popped in my stash of candy(or what Imran refers to my 9 daily medicines as) and pushed myself to plaster on a smile and enjoy.


On Sunday, my headache grew but I tried to clear out the laundry so the kids would have their uniforms ready. In the daily grind of parenting, it always helps to be ahead. Since N wouldn’t be back until Tuesday, I asked Imran to run to home depot so he could pick up some wood to reorganize our laundry room. I managed to get the laundry done, purged the kids toys, reorganized their baskets and was just done vacuuming when Imran called that he’d run into a friend and wanted to bring them over. 


No problem. We always enjoy good company.


The friend came over with his wife and three kids. I quickly fried two types of premade kababs, corn and put in a brownie to bake along with some chai. The mum took her kids and we went down to play. We were sitting and talking but the mum was clueless about her children’s whereabouts. The daughter was ripping out the stars from my walls, writing on my kids’ flashcards, wiping vaseline down my sofa, emptying the toy bins but the mom wouldnt look until i pointed it out. Come home time, she picked up her kids and left.




Seriously?! After an entire day of dragging myself to prepare myself for the week ahead, the last thing I wanted to do was face this tornado. 


I have been an advocate of child free get togethers, but I don’t promote not visiting people with your kids. I take my kids out during the day, we have play dates and interact with friends. However, we don’t take kids out past their bedtime. We have had days when we had no babysitting, we took the kids to weddings but drove around till they fell asleep and let them stay asleep at the hall. If they woke up, we stayed and left before the kids had a meltdown. We pack cars, dinos, dolls or other toys and notepads with crayons to keep them busy. Its about keeping kids engaged and preventing them from being an annoyance to other people. We attend playdates but clean up before we leave. I admit, I’ve had days when I didn’t but after this visit, never again. 


My kids love having friends over. I have a friend who visits most weekends with her kids, but when she leaves, she makes sure the kids (hers and mine) put every single thing away. Although we chill, cook/eat and chat, she always keeps an eye on her kids. Her visit is never painful. 


Painful is watching kids running around way past their bedtime at weddings, causing premature wrinkles to cake through the bride’s stressed face. Painful is watching kids smear vaseline on my couch. Painful is cleaning up after guests. Painful is watching bins of unpicked toys. Painful is watching parents unknowingly instil bad social skills in their children.